I like to be around people who are sensitive, thoughtful, truthful, honest, reliable, modest, considerate, cheerful, authentic, consistent, reflective, people who can laugh at themselves, who possess a clean sense of humour, a dry sense of wit, knowledgeable, reverent, doctrinally astute, having an appreciation for aesthetic qualities, who love baroque and classical music, and who love the Lord, who appreciate and value belonging to a church which is faithful to the scriptures, who is able and willing to discuss deep matters of doctrine and faith.

I am somewhat genteel, soft hearted, curious, loyal, initially reserved, occasionally spontaneous, patient, midly witty, interested in biblical truth, loves baroque & classical music, reflective, even-tempered, a listener, modest and humble (until now).

The questionnaire did not ask my view on children, women and the family. I will proceed to provide a general philosphy that I have so far worked out in my life.

First, I confess that children are a blessing from the Lord. That blessing may be withheld by the Lord, as we see in the early life of Sarai, or Rebekah. I do love children, but also realize that children must be well provided for spiritually, physically and mentally. I believe it is improtant to take into account, the financial situation in which a family finds itself, in determining the size of the family. That decision may not be static, because the situations in which we find ourselves change from year to year. That decision must be arrived at dynamically between the husband and wife. A wife, whose wish it is, to have a "quiver full of children," must mentally prepare herself for how she too will help shoulder the economic load that will surely follow.

I also confess that the ideal life of the woman is to be found in Proberbs 31. Her first line of concern is with maintaining a well ordered home. Secondarily, she may be asked to assist her husband (who is the primary means of income) in an economically productive fashion, ideally through a home-grown cottage industry (e.g. Music, Art lessons, tutoring, spinning, weaving, writing) although some other means by which she may work part-time in kingdom work outside the home finds limited biblical support . Children are to be raised, educated, and admonished by both father and mother. Christian education may be entrusted to a faithful, parentally governed, Christian School when the children are of appropriate age, but the Christian school merely assists the parents in their God given role. The school by no means replaces the moral upbringing that only a father and mother can furnish. The raising of children is not exclusively a woman's line of work, but is also a man's duty. Household chores such as cooking, washing dishes and so forth, may be shared duties. I wish to state that the 1950's approach to family life was not a complete Biblical approach. We need to look at how life was lived prior to the Industrial Revolution, and we need to look closely at the Bible as well, to determine the ideal model for a married man and woman, living together, raising a family. A woman's submission is to her father, and when she becomes married, that submission is transferred to her husband. The submssion a man expects must be reasonable. A man must love and nurture his wife, and family, making decisions as impartially, and as selflessly as possible for the good of the family, just as Christ cares for and nurtures His Bride, the Church.